'the most painful part is that we mothers can warn, cajole and plead with them but by the time they're in their twenties, we're hard-pressed to change their minds,' she says.

最痛苦的在于，我们这些做母亲的可以警告、劝说甚至恳求孩子们别去做什么，但等他们到了20多岁，我们说什么都没用。