I look at affairs from a dual perspective: hurt and betrayal on one side, growth and self-discovery on the other — what it did to you, and what it meant for me.

我将婚外情一分为二来看：一方面是伤害和背叛，另一方面是成长和自我发现。婚外情给你带来了什么，对我又意味着什么。