My beauty you had early withstood, and as for my manners — my behaviour to you was at least always bordering on the uncivil, and I never spoke to you without rather wishing to give you pain than not.
On the Titanic, the rules concerning gender, class and the gentle treatment of children - in other words, good manners - had a chance to assert themselves.
If you don't want to sound impolite, or cause embarrassment or distress of any kind to the person you're talking to, you should learn to use tactful and tentative forms in your English.