Try using "manager's kanban" and dedicate yourself to solving X problem, let the team choose, they need to respect the cap and let them see that you are solving problems of their choice.
Your children will also receive help from XYZ Assistance Service, a service provided exclusively for your benefit. This is especially useful when they are travelling abroad and need emergency help.
Every large institution will have to have an in-house undertaker taking custody of the process, keeping it current, fully advised of any proposed action with needs to conform.